the in laws

Assalamulaikum..

After listening to recorded radio of Kes Menantu Hantu @ Pedas Warna  online, it makes me ponder how my relationship is going to be with the in-laws after getting married. I was introduced to my fiance's family on that very same day we've got together as a couple. Yup, it was way too early but at that time, fiance was certain that his family is going to accept me.

After more than 6.5 years together, I can say that I can get along very well with his brothers, his father talks more than I do and neutral with his mother. I just wonder how on earth daughter-in-law and mother-in-law can get along well like real mother and daughter relationship. His father is totally the opposite of my father. My father is very reserved quite type and rarely had a conversation with his daughters - most likely because when we were young, father holds 2 jobs (day & night) and we rarely saw him. On the other hand, fiance's father is easy-going. He usually starts the conversation and sometimes, like my fiance, he repeat the same thing. Haha.

While I'm relieved that his mother is not those MIL that is very strict (as in expecting the future daughter-in-law to be a good cook or banyak mengomel), I just could not hold an eye to eye conversation with her.  I am not being disrespectful but I am shy.In fact, I respect my future mother-in-law a lot. I always told my fiance, if one day I become a housewife, I would like to be a housewife like her. I agreed with her that housewife should set some time for herself. In the future, I would want to follow her to classes at the mosque and accompany her for a jog. Sign up for activities and have a group of friends. Although right now I do talk to her but it's like question and answer type. At certain times, I had so many questions in my head that I would like to ask her but I just couldn't open my mouth. And I would ask my fiance or his brother to ask it for me. And they will say to her, "Ibu! Rohani nk tanye sesuatu.. " But I will still insist them to ask for me. Of course, one day I would like to hold a conversation with her without hesitant. Insya Allah.

While waiting for our BTO to be completely build by 2016, fiance and I had agreed that on weekdays, we stay at his parents house and weekends is at my house. When I read blogs by bride who just married, they will say how much they miss staying with their family, I guess I am going to feel home-sick also. I would definitely miss my cats, the sight of my father, my mother nagged and going out shopping or exercising with my sisters.

As the date gets nearer, the more I imagine how my marriage life would be...


Regards,
Raw-Honey