Parenting style

Assalamualaikum...

The joy of motherhood cannot be describe in words. At the age of 30, being a mother of one 3year old son is a blessing. Sometimes, i do wish i was a mother at a younger age because having a child opens up a different perpective meaning of life.

As you grow older, looking after you gets easier. Not that is he fully independent but he has developed a personality that makes me feel as bersyukur. In terms of discipline, he will listen to me. He does not do it out of fear, but out of love. When i said pls kemas after main. He will do because all he wants is a praise. I praise him a lot even though it's a small thing. Because I believe this motivates a child to do better.

Then things go wrong, I hardly raise my voice or punished him. Why? Because what will you get from your child? A loud scream & continous crying. For example, when I warned him not to jump on bed but he still insist, I told him to be careful. When he fall from bed, I asked are you okay? And told him that this is the reason why I've warned earlier. Believe me, the child wont do it again. Because he understand the impact. What for you punished a child after he fell? He will not understand.

Another example, when Syawal accidentally spill his drink or drew on the floor. I praised him thay it's a beautiful drawing but it will be more beautiful on paper. I got him a towel & tell him to wipe it off.

When the child is under 7 years old, they are hunger for attention & praise. Let it be a main motivator for disciplince.

As he is now going 3 years old, he developed this sweet personality of a son. When i fake my fall, he asked, "ibu u ok?" When he wants something, he said, "ibu please.. please" followed by "thank you" when he received it. He will immediate wipe anything that he spill without me asking. Even when my hair came out from my tudung, he will use his hand to tuck it in.

It not that Im self-praising myself that my parenting style done right. But I've always reaf parents sort of complaining that their child misbehaviour in the Facebook group feed. What made me more worried is that it is now common to be a "weekend parent". Meaning they only see their child on weekend. How on earth are you going to control a child twice a week??

I hope that Syawal when he grows up, he wont grow up because of fear. Fear of being punish. Fear of failure. Fear of what people would say. I just want him to stay positive in life in whatever challenges he is facing. Amin...