Co-sleeping

Assalamualaikum,

When I was pregnant, my husband & I bought a pram, a baby cot and different types of swaddle (the buttons, the strap and the normal fabric). We couldn't decide which swaddle was suitable for him. Turn out, he does like to be swaddle at all. Whenever we swaddle him, he will try his best to put his hands out and his tiny legs will wiggle until the swaddle became loose.

How about the S$600.00 pram? We rarely use it. He likes to be carried. If we place in the pram, it must be moving. If it is stationary, he will cry out loud. Lastly, how about the babycot?

We never use for him to sleep at all! He only place him in the babycot for the first 4 months as a changing mat. We dismantle it after 4 months. Since day 1, he's been co-sleeping with us even in the hospital, he didn't sleep in the 'container', he slept beside me.

17 months later, we are still co-sleep and believe me, he still wakes up, up to 4 times at night for milk. Nothing could stop his cry until he drink his milk. Minimum number of times he woke up at night is once, but that rarely happens. People around us and even the doctor advice to let him cry-it-out because he should sleep throughout the night and milk is not needed. And we should let him sleep by himself, not sleep with him.

My husband has the intention to follow people's advise but I couldn't because I remember when I was young, I slept with my mother until I was 10 years old. If I woke up and find my mother was not beside me, I will cry as loud as I could but she will be rushing to 'rescue' me by sleeping with me instead of she sleeping with my father. I remember how afraid am I to be sleeping alone. My other sisters wasn't like that, they can sleep by themselves.

Thus, I couldn't do cry-out-loud method as I believe my son will feel how I feel when I was young. He needs a companion. It's also a wonderful feeling to see my son smiling at me whenever I open my eyes and he always wants to hug my hands so that he can fall asleep.

Yes, I do admit I miss sleeping throughout the night. Not having to wake up to make milk. However, I put aside the selflessness because one day or sooner, I will have the full night sleep when he grows up.

For now, my son, let's cuddle to sleep.



- Raw Honey -