Assalamualaikum everyone..!
Finally a sigh of relieve. Our housing grant has approved and we've paid 5% of the property, conveyancing fee and lease stamp fee. Although the grant was less than we expected but still Alhamdulillah. Our BTO is expected to be completed in early 2016 and I'm so excited! We already had a plan on how we like our house to be decorated. One of the room will be a guest/entertainment room. I've told him that I want one of the wall to have a whiteboard build in from top to bottom so that our kids (insyaAllah) will have a place to express their creativity. To me creativity starts from young but when they go to school, education hinders creativity. Oh, the leaves should be green in color, not blue. The sky should be blue, not yellow. To me, creativity is a place of fantasy - just go what you like. If I have kids, I want them to be as creative as they can be. If they like to act, I will signed them up for drama classes. If they like to take picture, photography classes sounds like a good idea.
My fiance asked, we will place our kids to a playgroup or sign them up for tuition? I said, no. Why pay someone else to teach our kids what they have already learn in school? Education starts from parents not from school. Who teach them how to walk? To talk? To write? To draw? Parents. Why stop teaching them when they go to school? I told him that I myself will read their textbooks and practice their homework and I will teach them personally; no need for tuition. Why sign up for playgroup as young as 2 years old, when they can play as long as they want at they own time? Childhood is the point of time why you make mistake and learn from it.
I had a friend who is a parent. I asked her, ''How's your daughter O level results?'' She said, ''Aiyah, it's not what I expected. Her results is not good. She did not get into JC. Only poly." I was shocked, "What? Poly is good. Only the way the learn is different. You should be clapping your hands and give your daughter a hug. At least she did her best!" She then continue... ''I want her to have a better future. I do not want her to be like me.." That's the mistake parents made. Just because they feel guilty or regret for something they should have done when they were young, they put pressure on their children. How can a child knows their path when their parents already have plan for them?
My parents have never ever place pressure on their daughters on education. My mom is uneducated and my dad stopped at primary level. But they never felt the same guilt or regret that my friend has. During secondary school selection, we can select up to 6 school. I've asked my parents which school they would prefer me to go. Dad said, "As long as it's near our house..." That's it. After secondary, I got into a school for A level, my dad bought me the uniform and textbooks. 1 month after I told my dad, ''I've changed my mind, I want to go to poly''. Without questioning, he bought to be a laptop for poly use which I know he can't afford. He paid it by monthly installment for 3 years but after a year, once I got a part-time job, I paid the rest. I never regret the decision I've made even though I've repeat poly twice. I'll rather repeat poly than A level.
My sister stopped at O level and my parents never question her why she does not want to continue her education. Instead, she goes to secondary level for religious school and continue from there onwards. Knowing she had made their own decision, she paid the school expenses her self and now she's happily working at SMRT.
So they way my parents treat me, will me the same way I've treat my children. That's what I told my fiance.
Best Regards,
Rohani
