Dear Love...

Dear Love,

Today, it's my 3rd Annivesary with my most beloved Irwan. The one I truly cherish and love and I would like to spend the coming years with him. I am extremely happy that we've made it and may our relationship blossom through rain or shine.

This year, was a tough year for us as it's the year we start planning ahead. It's not just a coupling relationship, it's more than that we are looking forward to. And to achieve that, we been through big fight and small ones that we've learn how to deal with and accept it as a part of a learning process.

I felt that it is worth the big arguments we had in the mid of this year where we learn how to trust. Last year, there were just "both of us" with no attraction of other party of the opposite sex. And his NS days made it impossible while I am only surrounded by 3 best friends I truly loved. There's no way for us to get away with the ''temptations'' this year since we started our working life.

Our busy schedule was one of the reason for communication breakdown in terms of supporting each other emotional feelings. Due to that, we probably had someone else to lean on especially when we only get to see each other once every 7 days (means 3 or 4 times per month - worst than NS, i tell you!) Moreover, our ego went up high since we both can be feed ourselves and independent thinking that we do not need any emotional support.The constant argument on who's fault was it lasted for 3 weeks and that moment, I had a horrible feelings of insecurities.

Fortunately, we pull it through together. We managed to handle our feelings well and place back the pieces. No Love, there wasn't any betrayal at all. The fault lies through emotional support breakdown. Through this, I've learn that if we do not have time, then make time for someone special although it may be little, at least it's meaningful and may prevent potential disasters.


There are thousands of reason why I stayed on with him; most are undescribable. However, what I can say is that I have never met a man who treats his family well and have made me feel one of them. I've met a man who meant what he says. It's not the lovely-dovey sayings that makes me feel love but it's his actions. (Read: Actions speaks louder than words)

And my advice to you, Love, find a man who treats his family well and you will get the same treatment as well. If you find a man who ignores his family needs and are rude to his parents, be very careful. Secondly, don't bother hoping for someone to love you back or wait till he'll fall in love with you. Believe me, it's not worth waiting. Besides, you will never know there's other ''fishes'' who are willing to give you its heart. Lastly, love needs to be patience and full of adventure. If you are not ready for it, don't go. It's either you take it or leave it. Each choices has its consequences.

3 years, and my love for him blossoms every single day. Now till eternity.

Love,
Rohani