Breaking up! - Is it hard or easy as we thought?

This is an article I found in the net which I would like to share. Quite interesting!

But still, to me, it's hard to break up once you've been that person for so long no matter how much war or argument had occurred.

Sometimes, when one of us asked for a break. The other party will say, "Jangan nak bedek!/Tipu lah../Da la..jangan nak merepek!" or sometimes I will say, "I know you can't live without me..haha!" End up, we didn't because..... fill in the blanks.

Arguments occurs when there's differences in opinion or personality. But we can overcome it if we have tolerance. The difference about me and Irwan is that I am pretty optimistic person who is too confident that when failure comes, she get mad, especially when it comes to education. Irwan is a pessimistic person who is most likely to think negative about what it going to happen next but that's good because he is cautious. That's when we do argue because I dislike hearing people talking negatively about themselves or their future. Thus, I try to be cautious in everything I do. Even I am not allowed to sit beside any guy unless he is my classmates and we have group discussion. Other than that, no excuses. You bet, it sounds so not write but it is the way he is. And when we went out and I am hoping for the best throughout that day, when it didn't turned out to be, I will get frustrated inside.

Secondly, I enjoyed working as a team while he is a soloist.Hehe.. A group discussion makes me think wider as I get different perspective from other members. He is a soloist because of dot..dot..dot..

In whatever circumstances, till now we work our differences together although tsunami occurs at certain times.

But what makes us really good to be with each other is:
- Our giler2 attitude
- Our kuat makan habit

There's high possibility that he might be going overseas for weeks or up to 1/2 year to complete his training in next year. Oh no!!! Mampui.. kena banyak bersabar lagik.

Some of my gal friends whose boyfriends hadn't go for NS asked me what's the secret keeping a relationship during his 2 years of service. These are the list (through my experience) :

• Banyak bersabar! - Sometimes they tend to be kuat merajuk sebab nak dapatkan perhatian
• Everyday call - To update on each other day and it feels that he is always there although he's not physically around.
• Compulsory morning sms - To alert that he is still okay and alive!
• A die die weekend date - Always make it as meaningful as possible. As we get to see each other for only once a week
• Lots of encouragement - To boost up his confidence because they are tired and they have lots and lots of test..sometimes 3 test per week!
• 1 day settlement - Once there's argument, don't brought it forward. Settle it on that day itself.

I guess the most important thing that NS guy have to do is always TRY to be there for her. Irwan always make sure I have time for him or I die. Huhu..

Nevertheless, have a fruitful relationship. It's a parcel of an interesting life! :)

9 months ++ and I am definitely contently thankful with it.

Love & regards,
Rohani